In this weird and worrying world where everything has changed almost overnight, it is more important than ever to help our children feel safe and secure.
The challenges that we are all facing in our daily lives aren’t easy and the way in which we react can have a huge impact on our children.
Many of us are dreading the thought of a never ending school holiday but we need to see it as a special time – a gift of time that has been given to us.
In our busy world time flies by and before you know it your little one is starting school. The years go by quickly, getting faster as we get busier rushing around juggling work, school pick ups, after school clubs … and before you know they are off to university. Believe me it happens so quickly.
So amidst this chaos take a deep breath and see this time as a gift to your family to connect and spend time together. It wont be easy – It’s not what we are used to. There will be days when it all seems too much for them and you. Be patient and understanding and make sure that as well as creating memories together, that you have time alone to read, listen to music and just relax.
LISTEN TO YOUR CHILDREN
Children’s lives have changed , schools and nurseries are closed, some may have to live with Grandparents or other relatives to allow their parent to work. They cannot see or play with friends. Parents are stressed working from home, worrying about social distancing and finances.
We cannot shield them completely from what is happening but it is important not to talk about it all the time. Give them an opportunity to express their concerns and ask questions and provide re-assurance as much as possible. They may start to misbehave, don’t get angry, talk to them and find out what is worrying them.
At a time like this a teddy bear or favourite soft toy can provide great comfort for a child. Not only is it something that provides a warm feeling that a hug can give, it offers a feeling of security in a changing world.
If finances allow a gift of a special teddy or cuddly toy can put a smile on a troubled little face. If you would like to have a look at all of our teddy bear gifts head over now to Bears4u where there are lots to choose from. There are even voice recording teddy bears that allow you to record a special message to go inside the teddy bear.
It is important to keep a daily and weekly routine. Don’t stress about times but give your days structure. Make sure the children get dressed at the start of the day rather than staying in their pyjamas all day.
Stick to regular meal times and try to provide a healthy meal with fruit and vegetables in between as snacks. Don’t allow children to graze on junk food all day, they wouldn’t do it at school so don’t need to at home. Allocate snack times as well as meal times. A little treat at the end of the day gives them something to look forward to.
We are lucky to have so many ways of staying in touch with family and friends. Make sure that you do and that your children do as well. We can chat to relatives and friends on Facetime, WhatsApp, Skype and Zoom and it is important for the children to do that to allow them to see that their friends and family members are safe and well.
As well as all the modern techological ways of staying in touch you can try the old fashioned way – send a letter! Get your children to paint, draw pictures, write stories about how they are feeling and what they have been doing and send them to Grandparents.
Pick some flowers to post or if you can afford it send some from a florist. There are number of inexpensive on line florists that send affordable flowers Freddies Flowers is one that we like. Send a teddy bear for Grandma, she will love it and it will be something that she will keep for life.
IDEAS FOR ACTIVITIES
Keeping children happy and entertained to try and help prevent squabbles is a challenge. Many will have schoolwork that has been set for them. Don’t stress over this. Let them do it in small amounts and don’t enforce a strict timetable. If you haven’t had work sent home there is a huge amount of support on line. We like Scholastic’s Lear at Home website. There are lots of fun activities on you tube and educational tv programs such as The Magic School Bus.
It is great to let them get involved in activities that allow them to be creative and use their own minds. Some ideas we like are;
Give them a list of things to collect in the garden or whilst out on your walk – 2 smooth pebbles, a yellow petal, a shiny green leaf etc and then use the collection for artwork when you get home. Press flowers in a book, create a picture from the items, paint on the stones.
A Play or Talent Show
Children can have a lot of fun creating their own play or talent show and performing it at the end of the day and it allows all ages to take part. Why not film it and send it to Grandparents
Give them a corner of the garden to weed and grow seeds, vegetables and herbs. If you don’t have a garden a window box or plastic tub will do.
Make a Teddy Bear
Bears4u have a selection of build your own teddy bear kits which are easy to make and will provide hours of fun as well as a special friend to cuddle when complete.
Whatever you decide to do with your children in this time give them a big hug at the end of every day and be thankful you can.